May 14th, 2010 Being a COOL Mom
I am one cool Mom… at least in my own mind I am! My oldest son finds me utterly embarassing most of the time. Apparently kissing your children at school, wearing your Gi to pick them up, and dancing in the grocery store is actually like committing child abuse!! Don’t even get me started on what singing in the car does to one’s child….
Now, I like to think that I am building a relationship with my kids that will enable open and honest communication with them. Apparently it’s going ok so far, my stepdaughter and I had a chat today about booze and drugs… we don’t necessarily have the same opinions, but I was thrilled that we could talk about it. I felt like an amazing parent! I want them all to grow up confident and ready to take on the world. We teach them independance. My 8year old knows how to cook a few things, and my 5year old won’t be far behind. They walk to school, and we give my 8year old responsibility. We may drop the ball on some things, but on the things that are important, the things that will make them successful, happy, productive members of society – we are way ahead of most.
Now, back to my coolness!!
Embarassing behaviours aside, and after-school special conversations aside… there are a few things that my kids DO think are cool! They like that I have my green belt in Karate, and that I assist in their classes, and that I can pick up a bo and swing it around with some skill. They think it’s cool that I can fly a plane. They also think it’s cool that I am tattoo’d. I got my 8th ink-spot yesterday. It, as all of my tattoos do, means something special to me. My daughter (step-daughter… whatever) drew it. A few details had to be changed just because her original drawing was quite finely detailed… but it’s mostly hers. I am so excited to have a piece of her permanently with me. I think she was touched as well. 
I am so lucky to have the kids that I do, and to know that while they drive me absolutely bonkers some days.. they are turning into amazing, talented, beautiful people that will make a huge difference in this world.
ps – I am including pictures of the things my kids think are cool.
May 16th, 2010 at 02:35
Your kids are lucky to have you as a mom. I wish all blending families have cool moms just like you are. And Hey! you can fly a plane! That is way too cool for me!